Why I care about living simple
For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Brandon. Throughout all my life my mom has had a disability, and as a kid, my dad was an incredible workaholic. I tell you these two facts, because they really shaped my life and caused me to become the life coach I am today.
As a kid, my dad didn’t arrive home until after I was asleep and would be up the next day and at work before I was awake. I didn’t get a lot of time with my dad, and I never learned how to properly swim or ride a bike because of it.
At a very early age I saw how being busy can take away a lot from your life, and it put me on a very different path. I decided I wanted to be successful and happy, but I didn’t want to spend my whole life in a rat race. I wanted to do big things with my life, but I also wanted the time to smile, be with good friends, and appreciate each moment as it came by.
The result of that decision caused me to learn the art of simplicity, the ability to do a lot with very little time and effort. As I have lived my life more simplistically, I have come to notice I experience life very differently. I see incredible beauty in every moment of my life, and I have a deep appreciation for all the wonder you discover every time you just stop, breathe, and take in your surroundings.
The fact that a lot of people never experience that moment of awe is something that makes me a little sad. Hoping to remedy that, I’ve devoted my business to coaching people who want to see those moments. They want to discover what happens when you put the to-do list down and just breathe.
Here’s my question to you. Do you feel like being too busy is taking away from your life?
Being busy can take away from your life in different ways. In some cases, being busy creates a lot of stress. We find ourselves overwhelmed and unsure how to manage when we have a weeks worth of tasks to do and only a day to do it. Eventually, we find ourselves unable to keep up with the demands of our daily lives and fall apart.
In other cases, a busy life takes away from our sense of purpose and direction. We have everything we could ever want, but for some reason we just feel hollow. A busy life somehow feels aimless. We feel like we’re supposed to fill our lives with accomplishments and accolades, but to what end? What do you do, when accomplishment is no longer the sole driver of your life?
Simplifying is sadly not that simple.
While it might look easy on paper, learning to simplify your life can be very challenging. Most people are very used to a busier lifestyle– stepping out of that can mean a lot of reworking habits, self-awareness, and dealing with personal fears.
In particular, when you are a busy-aholic, you are used to micromanaging everything in your life. Simplifying means letting go of that constant need for control, and naturally, that process is terrifying.
There is also an incredible fear of losing drive. When you are used to doing anything and everything, there’s a fear of what will happen if you stop. Will I still be doing big things with your life? What if I just become a useless failure? What if I don’t ever amount to anything?
Simple doesn’t have to be scary
These fears are incredibly common, and you are definitely not alone if you feel them. Many of the clients I coach experience these exact same fears, and it’s not until they start coaching that they realize they can not only overcome their fears, but also actively disprove them and live the lifestyle they want.
Living simplistically, has a lot less to do with how cluttered your house is, and lot more to do with what’s going on in your head. Through coaching, you start to identify the fears and emotional barriers that keep you trapped in busy lifestyle. We then work through these fears and learn to negate them through a variety of techniques. Once you know you have nothing to fear, nothing can hold you back from living how you want.
A whole new way of being
When you learn to simplify your life, you not only learn how to have less stress. You learn a whole new expansive way of life. Whenever I have met somebody who changed to a simpler lifestyle, I’ve noticed they all more or less say the same things:
- “I’ve never realized what experiences I was missing out on.”
- “I never knew taking life slower could be so gratifying”
- “I had no idea how much more there was to enjoy in the world.”
- “I didn’t know my life could be made so much better by just making a few changes.”
Working with me, clients learn how to:
- Enjoy the moment
- Discover new and exciting sources of emotional fulfillment
- Find inner peace
- Embrace imperfection
- Pace themselves
I said before, pursuing a life of simplicity can be incredibly scary, but it doesn’t have to be. With time, drive, and proper guidance anybody can learn to live more simplistically. The most important part is taking that first step. Take a chance, dare to step out of your comfort zone, and see what’s out there for you discover.